Bonjour!
So today I thought I'd talk to all you lovely ladies about those weird creatures from Mars...GUYS - and understanding them. I know I'm
a) only 16 &
b) not a guy
BUT I have a teeny bit of experience about what to do when you like a guy and also because I have a brother and have watched a few videos about this. So, here goes: are guys really all that confusing?!
- Guys like their space - just like girls. Most girls can relate to having that really clingy guy who won't stop bothering them and cannot take a hint so be respectful to guys too! Just like us, they don't like clingy people, so think about what you send or say before you do.
- Don't always be available. Lots of guys find it attractive when a girl is a challenge - in fact pretty much everyone likes this. Nobody wants someone who is always available because it makes you look like you're easy to get. Make the guy think he has competition and that you're not always free all the time. It makes you WAY more attractive because guys love the chase.
- Make sure you're busy and enjoy yourself. If a guy sees you moping about on your own, he'll think you have way too much time on your hands and the idea of dating you will be out of the picture super fast. Show him you're good fun and you'll be a lot more appealing. A girl who is happy without a guy shows independence, confidence and is overall much more attractive. (Top Tip: Smile! Guys love a girl who is happy and not afraid to be herself).
- Having said that, don't play too hard to get. Guys can be a little slow so playing too hard to get can actually turn them off. If they think they have no chance with you, they'll probably give up as they'll see chasing you as a waste of time. It's all about balance. Be a bit flirty and let them know you like them but don't creep on them. On the other hand, don't act mean and ignore them. Especially, do not flirt out-rightly in front of them with other guys - particularly their friends. If will not only make you seem disinterested in them, but also a bit of a flirt who is like that with everyone. You want them to know you they're special.
- Be yourself. No guy wants to date someone who is completely different with different people or online or in person - it's confusing! It isn't cool if a girl has tons of personalities - it makes you look complicated and complications are not for the simple minds of guys! (I'm just kidding about that bit but you know what I mean!)
- Confidence is pretty important. Even if you're a bit shy, make sure you talk. Shyness can be cute but not to the point of silence and zero effort on your part. Try and make conversation otherwise they might think you're boring and not see you as worth the effort. Guys always say that they find confidence as one of the most sexy things about us ladies so try and show them how sexy you are!
- Don't be a "mate" to him. If you want him to see you as a potential girlfriend, don't act like one of the guys. Tomboys can be super attractive to guys but to an extent. So you like camping? (I do!) Cool. So you're up to get a bit muddy? Cool. But if you call each other "bro" and "man", stop now! That's not good if you want something more from him.
- DO NOT CHANGE YOURSELF FOR ANY GUY. No guy is worth changing yourself dramatically for. If you want to dye your hair and he suggests a new colour, that's one thing but telling you to change your style or not to wear a certain thing is never okay. He is not worth your time if he's going to change everything about you as soon as you're together.
I think that's about it but if you have any other tips, feel free to leave them in the comments below! Follow me for my posts and advice. Anyway, hope this helps and you never know, these tips may land you a boyfriend telling you to kiss him... Hope everyone has fun under the mistletoe!
Love, Lena xo
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